Hi there, I’m Andrea!
I am an online Anxiety Management Coach. As an AMC I help mothers who suffer from anxiety develop confidence in themselves so they can sustain a more peaceful household and calm children.
A bit more about who I am:
I grew up in Madrid and currently live in the south of The Netherlands. I moved to this country out of love and together with my husband we have formed a beautiful family. We have two amazing daughters who grow up way too fast (probably all the moms out there agree about this!). Vega is 6 years old, and baby Lucía is nearly 1 year old. We also have a dog named Biko and a cat named Luna, who are more like family than pets. Luna thinks she is a dog and we just let her believe that because it makes her happy!
My soul resembles one of an old librarian as one of my passions is to collect sentences and quotes that inspire me. For as long as I can remember, I´ve loved everything about books.
If I had to describe myself in three words, I would say that I am unpredictable, dreamy, and enthusiastic. I love pretty messages, notebooks, the smell after the rain, Christmas lights, bamboo, smiles, and puzzles.
I don’t like hypocrisy, rushing, cauliflower, being told what to do, science fiction movies, dark chocolate, one-cent coins, and changing seasonal clothes.
What is my story?
Without any holidays for many months and being in a relationship that over time I realized was toxic. That was me at the end of 2010. I hadn’t realized how much I had forced this until my body and mind decided to give me a warning in the form of an anxiety attack. I was in the office with a lot of work to do. My boss began to yell at me and I noticed I was having difficulty breathing. I didn’t understand what was wrong with me. I couldn’t stop shaking. They took me to medical services and the doctor told me that I had very high pulsations. He gave me a relaxant and sent me home.
I spent a month at home doing absolutely nothing but watching TV and then the panic attacks started. The feeling that I was going to die was so real… I asked to go back to work because I thought being busy would make things better. I lied to myself thinking I could control it. I thought everything would be better, but the anxiety never left me. The fears for everything began, I did not want to meet people, I did not want to talk or answer the messages sent by my friends, I wanted to be alone. I didn’t know how to explain what was happening to me.
The medication prescribed by the doctors for anxiety took several weeks to take effect. I felt like I was in autopilot mode. It was very addictive and one day I found myself having an anxiety attack and looking for the pill in my bag as if I had gone crazy. I decided I didn’t want to depend on it and the doctor reduced the medication until he took it off (any type of medication should always be under medical supervision).
When I hit rock bottom
When I moved to The Netherlands, the anxiety multiplied. I was without my family, friends, without knowing the language surrounded by different customs. I was afraid of absolutely everything. I used to have panic attacks going to the supermarket, calling the doctor, making friends, going shopping, going to birthday parties, or family gatherings.
In 2016, I became a mom for the first time and felt overwhelmed by the situation like many new mothers. The hours without sleep, not having time for myself, eating when I could… The anxiety worsened and I felt in many moments an absolute loss of control. I loved my daughter above all else, but I felt like a horrible mom.
For 10 long years, I tried everything. I was provided with methods and did my research on how to better my anxiety but saw no improvement. I concluded that I should ask for help. I couldn’t do it alone. I couldn’t let my daughter grow up seeing her mother totally out of control, insecure, unable to make decisions, and feeling like life was horrible.
I called the psychologist and she proposed a one-year treatment. In a year I would be better. I was excited to recover. During the sessions with the psychologist, I learned a lot, but I always had that feeling of not being understood. She was a great professional but I have never had anxiety, so it was impossible for her to understand some of the things I told her. She couldn’t put herself in my situation.
How did I recover?
At the beginning of 2021, I became a mother for the second time. I promised myself that I would take control of my life and entered the world of coaching. Ali Daniel, one of the best 10 coaches of 2021, contacted me and thanks to her program I became a coach.
Now the experience of being a mom is different. I am closer than ever to my eldest daughter. I am enjoying each of the good and bad moments being aware that time passes very quickly and does not come back. My self-esteem is better than ever. I feel able to overcome any challenge and above all, I feel that I am in control.
Not only have I learned to live with my anxiety, have a better relationship with her, and even sometimes thank her for everything I have learned. I no longer pretend to be perfect; I have learned that I am more than enough, I believe in myself, my projects, and my decisions. I have become more aware of my thoughts, fears, and beliefs. I feel more in control and now I can be more present when I am with my daughters. I am happy and enjoy life.
How my story can help you
As I mentioned, my therapist was a big help, but I struggled with achieving my end goal because I was working with someone who did not fully understand me. Yes, she made a difference in my life, but everything was from a clinical point of view. How can you help someone change if you cannot channel their emotions?
I have been in your shoes and have healed along the way. You’ll be working one on one with someone who relates to you, shares similar experiences, and understands what your needs are and how your brain operates. I teach through my own experiences in the most authentic way possible, which is so much more powerful and effective than teaching by textbook. With me, you have someone in your corner to hold your hand, cheer you on, and offer you the compassion you need. Together, we can and will create a life for you with minimal anxiety, more confidence, and the ability to attend to your children in the most calming way possible, allowing them to grow up in a peaceful and inspiring household.
Can’t wait to connect and learn all about you!